Tony Robbins said, “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” So true. I know that when I withhold forgiveness I am only hurting myself. When I forgive someone, I imagine it might help them to heal, but the healing most definitely goes on inside of me. Holding onto hate and anger and judgment causes a cascade of stress biochemicals to launch in my body, triggering the stress response and causing high blood pressure, high blood sugar, lowered immunity, etc. Holding onto anger and judgment clutters up our lives. Forgiveness on the other hand has the opposite effect, eliciting the relaxation response and freeing up space in our mind and body. I am not suggesting you have to actually TALK to the person you are judging.Although that might be ideal, it is not always possible. Perhaps you could just get a blank piece of paper and write your words of forgiveness there. See how you fell after writing it all down. Then burn it if you like.
Is there someone you need to forgive? How about forgiving yourself first? I know you will feel better.