Today Steve was breathing rapidly and noisily and was not responsive. His eyes were open but he did not interact with us. His mom and one of his sisters called to say goodbye. Around 12:30 I played a Josh Wright CD for him and went downstairs to talk to a girlfriend. At 12:50 I felt that I should go check on him. She and I went up to the bedroom and he had passed away. My first reaction was one of delight and joy that he was finally out of pain and gone Home for Christmas, although I was sorry I wasn’t there at the exact moment of death. Then I was sad, then happy, then sad,… Interestingly, our son Andy in Atlanta was listening to the exact same CD at the same time.
The Hospice nurse came right away and arranged for the mortuary to pick him up, and for the medical supply company to pick up the bed and other supplies. Our grandson Marlo and our son Brad stayed with me the whole time. Along with our daughter Pepper we went to dinner at Steve’s favorite restaurant and reminisced. It was fun and touching and bonding and Steve would have loved that we did that.
We wrote the obituary and scheduled the funeral for next Tuesday. It will be nice to honor him and celebrate his life. A new chapter begins for all of us.