Last week my husband Steve had an MRI to confirm the bone scan results that the bladder cancer has spread to his pelvic bones. Results confirmed. He also probably has very small tumors in his lungs. The oncologist suggested 4 more rounds of chemotherapy to prolong life. She said statistics showed that with chemotherapy Steve would probably live over a year. Without chemotherapy he would probably live less than a year. Steve chose to stop chemotherapy and use the natural remedies he has, and focus on healing. What he has read about cancer says the immune system can kill it. Since chemotherapy lowers immunity, it seems counterproductive at this point.I support his decision. So now things have changed for us. Instead of going to physicians’ offices and chemotherapy all the time, his next oncology appointment is in 2 weeks. So what do we do with this extra time? With the suggestion of Peggy Burkhardt (immediate past president of AHNA) we are going to focus on what brings us joy. It can be small things, like the garden or a funny joke, or large things like vacations. Interestingly, we both agree that cleaning the house will bring us joy. Maybe not the act of cleaning, but once it’s clean, it will be joyful. So now I think it is time to create choice memories, which will always be with us. We should have been doing this all along. Stay tuned.