Love and Risk

Blossoms out on a limbI just started reading Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson and discovered a wonderful quote by Erica Jong: “Love is everything it’s cracked up to be… It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, your risk is even greater.” This reminded me of the quote by Anais Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”  Like the picture on this post, love often asks us to go “out on a limb” to truly blossom.
Stress is created by fear. We are often afraid to share our true feelings, speak our truth or make radical changes because we don’t want to be hurt. This avoidance of risk is natural, and the way we protect ourselves emotionally, spiritually and physically. But I guess there just has to come a day when it’s worth the risk to confront our fear. For many years I focused on making sure everyone was happy, not making waves, and protecting myself and loved ones from harm. I was afraid to speak my truth and definitely hated confrontation. I finally learned that the fear of confrontation was more stressful than the actual confrontation. And I felt great after the confrontation. As Susan Jeffers says, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” Words to live by. It seems to me that love waits on the other side of fear. Walk (or run) through  the fear and love is discovered. And love is sweet medicine for stress and pain.

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