Well, Thanksgiving was not what I expected. So once again I am learning to drop expectations. My mom used to always quote, “Confucius says, He who expects nothing is seldom disappointed.” Words to live by. First of all, our son Andy and his family are in Atlanta so could not be here. Then my other son Sid needed to arrive late. So there were only 9 of us and there are usually 17 here for the big feast. On top of this, Steve was extremely drowsy and slept right through dinner. It was as if this was our first Thanksgiving without him. So I got pretty sad before dinner even started because I was missing the good ol’ days. The good news is that we had a great time. Our son Brad and his family were here along with our daughter Pepper and her son Marlo. It was great. I am blessed with cheerful, fun family members. We played Game of Fame and just cracked up. Then when Brad and family left to go to his in-law’s celebration, Sid showed up with his girlfriend Melissa and visited Dad for a few hours, and loaded up on leftovers. It was lovely.
Steve is going in and out of lucidity and is doing OK. He has pain in his shoulder in the mornings but the meds kick in and he usually does OK the rest of the day. He really liked the Therapeutic Touch treatment he got from Rebecca Good a couple days ago. He said that helped more than medicine. It’s a small world – Rebecca and I worked together on the American Holistic Nurses Association annual conference held in Snowbird, Utah a few years ago, and now she volunteers for the hospice company we use. It was great to see her. She lost her husband to cancer 2 years ago and it was great for me to talk to someone who has traveled this road. I am not alone.
Steve’s aide Stasha came today to give him a bed bath. He enjoys her company. She is attentive, patient, and listens to him and cares about him. It’s so very nice. He is surrounded by caring people. He is always treated with respect and love. We are blessed with wonderful people willing to walk this journey with us.