Urology Update

My husband Steve and I went to the urologist yesterday to see if he could control Steve’s urinary pain better, and maybe figure out what was causing. His opinion is that it is bladder pain caused by the tumors and stent removal, which is causing soreness and bladder spasms. So he put Steve on stronger pain pills. Steve’s bladder/prostate removal surgery has been cancelled since the cancer has spread to his bones, there is not much for the urologist to do. So he brought up the subject of Hospice care. I never know  when my tears are going to drop, and the mention of Hospice brought them out. It hit home to me that Steve’s condition is terminal, he may die from this. I don’t think I have been able to face this head on. On top of which, Steve is not convinced he will die from this cancer, so we’re still relying on faith and hope to get him through. He will see his oncologist next Thursday, and if he decides to decline any treatment, then Hospice is the next step. It seems like a big decision but from what I’ve heard, people in Hospice live longer and healthier than people who refuse Hospice. So I’m all for it. But it really depends on what Steve wants to do.

Meanwhile, we are focusing on joy and building memories. Last night we had a meeting with people interested in buying Awesome Pest Control. It would be great to  get that going so Steve can step down as the owner and spend more time relaxing and reading and perhaps traveling, or doing what he wants. Today we are going to a movie, The Cokeville Miracle. Then tomorrow we’ll go to a meeting of the International Association for Near Death Studies where a survivor from Cokeville will speak. That should be interesting. I think it’s about angels watching over us. This morning I took my grandson out to brunch. Very nice. Next week I will go see a clinical social worker so I can talk to a third party about what’s going on, and how I can best support Steve and the rest of our family but also be sure to take care of myself.

6 thoughts on “Urology Update

  1. Hi Glenda,
    Feel the hug that I am giving you and Steve. You are being and doing what I believe are rational decisions for your health situations. And you are living like we all need to live…….one day at a time.
    Blessings to you as you go through this journey. Your blog will make a wonderful book. Could the title be “One day at a time”? /Ellie Slette

    • Yeah Ellie, the One Day at at Time theme is strong in this adventure and would make a great book title. Thanks for the great idea.

  2. It has been heartwarming/wrenching reading your posts each day. Our prayers are certainly with you all, and we love and admire your family.

    • Barbara I still want to go out to dinner or something with you and Bruce but life is moving fast around here. Thanks for your love and prayers.

  3. I totally agree with Ellie’s words…so wise. And tons of hugs from here

    Hospice focuses on comfort and there is a wonderful support team.

    Love and light and healing and …….one day at a time.

    Cancer is so Limited…………….

    It cannot cripple Love
    It cannot shatter Hope
    It cannot destroy Peace
    It cannot kill Friendship
    It cannot suppress Memories
    It cannot silence Courage
    It cannot invade the Soul
    It cannot steal Eternal Life
    It cannot conquer the Spirit

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